While entering my health history of the last three years into a form for insurance, it struck me that in that time I had been pregnant thrice and hospitalized five times. Because I had suffered two pregnancy losses and was pregnant, my insurance application was rejected. I could only refile after I had delivered my baby. When I opened that rejection letter, I felt my … Continue reading Long Road to Baby
I started reading Beauty and Sadness by Yasunari Kawabata, which won the Nobel Prize in Literature or the Male Adulation of Female Inability to Meaningfully Consent to a Sexual Relationship with an Adult Male Prize. The protagonist reminisces about an affair he started with a 15 year old girl when he was 30. Imagine, the legal age of consent in Japan is 13 but the … Continue reading Heterosexual Sex Happens to Women
Over the past year, my husband and I have experienced two late miscarriages. I cannot sufficiently describe the pain, the shame, the guilt, the sense of failure, the desolation of losing a child you were hoping for. We had been trying for nearly a year before I finally conceived successfully. I was happy but anxious. Some of my friends had experienced multiple miscarriages in their … Continue reading Coping with Pregnancy Loss
On February 25, 2018, the Daily Monitor ran an article titled “Are Men Wired to be Polygamous?” My brain waves lit up of course! I thought a study had been undertaken to show that men were genetically predisposed to dip their wick in every available (and at times unconsenting) jar. It would explain why some men feel obliged to whistle or comment or grab at … Continue reading The Polygamy Myth
Poem by Rebekah Henderson Thank you for playing. For putting on your pink pussy hat And suiting up in your ally uniform. I appreciate your attempts At trying it on, I bet you think It looks real good on you You see yourself as an accomplice You swear that you are in it for reals for reals You see yourself dressed up as an activist … Continue reading Skin
You lay your back on the bed and wait for the moment of penetration. Maybe he will lick “it” a little if he can find it. Just to get you “ready” enough for him to enter. Maybe even you don’t know where it is. You were shamed out of touching your clitoris growing up while he practiced with his shaft all through puberty and still … Continue reading The Pussy Disillusion
As a woman who has suffered from sexual abuse, I can only hope that months or years from now, after the furore has died down, some systems will have permanently changed in favour of the victims. Here is a story from Caitlin Johnstone Allowing #MeToo To Go Viral Is The Biggest Mistake The Establishment Ever Made View at Medium.com View at Medium.com Continue reading Sexual abuse and empowering women
I am in the preliminary stages of my research on the political coalitions that formed around the anti-homosexuality bill that became law and was soon after repealed. Reading the articles in mainstream Ugandan press, I wonder if our journalists and thought leaders ever had a single original idea. I wonder what they learned in school. If they read books other than their textbooks. If they … Continue reading Of friendship and prejudice
Harvey Weinstein. The Weinstein Company. Miramax. I have loved the movies produced and distributed by those companies. Malena. Shakespeare in Love. Gangs of New York. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. Kill Bill. Some of my favourite films ever, gifted to us by companies spearheaded by a venomous lecherous creature. A criminal who I fear may never go to jail. He’s too rich. The stories of the … Continue reading Sexual Harassment as Flirtation
A few days ago, I learned that some of my OGs (former female classmates) physically abuse their maids and were proudly announcing it on social media. Some even claimed that they whip their maids. They literally tell them to lie down and then cane them. Needless to say, I was shocked. If you went to any school that was not international in Uganda, a teacher … Continue reading When Did We Start Believing That Abusing Domestic Help Is Acceptable?
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