Long Road to Baby

While entering my health history of the last three years into a form for insurance, it struck me that in that time I had been pregnant thrice and hospitalized five times. Because I had suffered two pregnancy losses and was pregnant, my insurance application was rejected. I could only refile after I had delivered my baby. When I opened that rejection letter, I felt my … Continue reading Long Road to Baby

Heterosexual Sex Happens to Women

I started reading Beauty and Sadness by Yasunari Kawabata, which won the Nobel Prize in Literature or the Male Adulation of Female Inability to Meaningfully Consent to a Sexual Relationship with an Adult Male Prize. The protagonist reminisces about an affair he started with a 15 year old girl when he was 30. Imagine, the legal age of consent in Japan is 13 but the … Continue reading Heterosexual Sex Happens to Women

Coping with Pregnancy Loss

Over the past year, my husband and I have experienced two late miscarriages. I cannot sufficiently describe the pain, the shame, the guilt, the sense of failure, the desolation of losing a child you were hoping for. We had been trying for nearly a year before I finally conceived successfully. I was happy but anxious. Some of my friends had experienced multiple miscarriages in their … Continue reading Coping with Pregnancy Loss


Poem by Rebekah Henderson Thank you for playing. For putting on your pink pussy hat And suiting up in your ally uniform. I appreciate your attempts At trying it on, I bet you think It looks real good on you You see yourself as an accomplice You swear that you are in it for reals for reals You see yourself dressed up as an activist … Continue reading Skin

How to Know You’re a Liberal Racist in these Great United States

If you don’t think white privilege is racist. Recently I watched a play called “Black” whose characters were a black woman and a white woman. The play centered on the laborious effort by the black woman to help the white woman understand why a twelve year old black boy (the black woman’s son) was killed by a white police officer (the white woman’s husband). I … Continue reading How to Know You’re a Liberal Racist in these Great United States

Of friendship and prejudice

I am in the preliminary stages of my research on the political coalitions that formed around the anti-homosexuality bill that became law and was soon after repealed. Reading the articles in mainstream Ugandan press, I wonder if our journalists and thought leaders ever had a single original idea. I wonder what they learned in school. If they read books other than their textbooks. If they … Continue reading Of friendship and prejudice

Sexual Harassment as Flirtation

Harvey Weinstein. The Weinstein Company. Miramax. I have loved the movies produced and distributed by those companies. Malena. Shakespeare in Love. Gangs of New York. Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon. Kill Bill. Some of my favourite films ever, gifted to us by companies spearheaded by a venomous lecherous creature. A criminal who I fear may never go to jail. He’s too rich. The stories of the … Continue reading Sexual Harassment as Flirtation